The hyphenated life

by Suw on March 5, 2008

We’re back! Sorta…
We got back from Barbados on Sunday, but this morning Kevin flew off to Sydney for five days and my brain is definitely still in the West Indies. So yes, only sorta back, only sorta with it. I’ve been trying to work today, and failing on pretty much every count. If I want to keep Friday free, I’m going to have to really pull my finger out tomorrow!

The Big Day
The wedding was absolutely amazing – we both had such fun! The morning was surprisingly relaxed, really. It all started off with an 8.30am hair appointment, which was pretty relaxing, followed by an hour or so of having my make-up done by my cousin Sonia in my parents lounge, with no one else around as my Mum was off getting her hair done, and Dad was busy ferrying people about. Eventually people – my bridesmaids, Matt who was our photographer for the day, my cousins – started to arrive, the flowers came, and it all slowly started to come together.

I even found a moment to sit down and check last minute emails.

I only had one moment of tension, when I started to worry if we were going to get everyone’s make-up done in time, but that turned out not to be a problem at all.

Thence to the venue, and my Big Entrance! It’s such a cliché, but the ceremony really did go by in a flash. We wrote the ceremony together – I’ll post the whole thing in due course – and I had been concerned that it would turn out to be too long, but it was perfect. Kevin’s cousin, the Reverend Gary La Croix, was a wonderful officiant.

Gary, Kevin and Suw

After photos, and spilling wine down my dress – d’oh! – it was time for the Wedding Breakfast. That was a nice chance to slow down a bit, and to look about us and just drink it all in. It was so lovely to have a moment to talk to Kev and enjoy the moment. The food was fab, although I couldn’t eat much with that corset on! And the entertainment – our wandering minstrel, Dante Ferrara – was just fabulous.

The cutting of the cake, which was predictably chocolate, came next.

And then the speeches. Dad did a really lovely, touching speech which was really two Pam Ayres poems, one for Kevin, and one for me. The Groom and Bride chose to speak together, as is our custom. And then The Big One – Chris Vallance gave the Best Man’s speech, which was completely inspired… and at times, a touch embarrassing.

And then, of course, the dancing! We had Diabolus in Musica to do a Tudor Ceilidh, which was a hoot. You’ve never seen so many people look quite so silly all in one spot before!

The best bit was watching the men ‘paw the ground like stallions’. Tee hee!

And before you know it, it’s time to throw the bouquet and leave. I gathered all the unmarried people together, male and female – we’re all equal here! – and stood with my back to the crowd. Then, well, I threw.

Ian was none too chuffed to be the catcher!

Vince recorded his thoughts on the day too, in a typically Vincian way. If any of our guests would like to, I’d be really happy for you to leave a long of a comment as you like, telling us about how the day went for you.

A few people have their photos up on Flickr already, including Ian, Vince, James, Amanda P, Amanda H, Jeff, and Jo. (If you have photos up on Flickr, you might like to join our group and add your photos to the pool.)

I will, in due course, put together a book, probably using Blurb, with the best of the photos and stories, quotes and excerpts from the ceremony, and any other things that come to mind. So please do leave a comment here, and do let me have copies of your photos if they’re not already up online.

And now…
Now I am Mrs Suw Charman-Anderson, although I still have some hoops to jump through to make it completely official, i.e. on my passport. Being married is wonderful. It really was the best day of my life. Kevin makes me so happy, and to be able to stand up in front of all our friends and family and declare our love and commitment has been very important to both of us. All the planning and hard work over the last year was so worth it – the day was everything we wanted it to be, and went as smooth as clockwork.

Huge thanks to everyone who helped, especially my parents Rob and Brenda, my Matron of Honour, Kate, and Kev’s Best Man, Chris. And thanks, of course, to my wonderful husband, without whom all of this would have been a very expensive and complex work of fiction.

James Cox March 6, 2008 at 12:07 am


It was fantastic to be there- I really enjoyed my day – and glad that the two of you became entwined as one 🙂

Jackie Danicki March 6, 2008 at 3:25 am

It was such a pleasure to follow the wedding preparations on Twitter, and I thank you both so much for allowing us such an intimate view of your marriage ceremony. I thought of you guys so many times on the big day, feeling all excited and pleased. We’ve met several times in “real life” but are basically online friends (I think you’d agree), and yet I felt a huge, happy emotional investment in your getting married! So if your marriage gives you even half of the delight that all this has given me, you’re in store for an even more wonderful life together.

Congratulations to you both, and thanks again!

Vincent March 6, 2008 at 8:54 am

I’m not sure if I warrant my own adjective – Vincian – but I kinda like it 🙂

I covered most of the minutiae in my blog post, so I’ll just reiterate the basics here – it was a hugely enjoyable day, the organisation of the wedding was excellent, but most of all it was a pleasure to see you and Kevin just looking so darned happy.

Paul Campbell March 6, 2008 at 9:40 am

Suw – you look fantastic! What a day! I’m really pleased for you both. All the best going forward – it’s going to be a blast!

Melissa March 6, 2008 at 3:36 pm

So sorry that I wasn’t able to join you on the day, but you were both in my thoughts! Congratulations and wishing you many more wonderful years as husband and wife!

henriette weber andersen March 6, 2008 at 8:00 pm

it looks like it was a great day – congratulation to both of you =)

Derek K. Miller March 7, 2008 at 6:51 am

What a lovely dress you picked. Happy day!

Now that the ceremony is all over, does the earlier stress seem like not such a big deal?

featherduster March 7, 2008 at 12:18 pm

Your dress was gorgeous – well worth all the beading and slightly OCD colour-matching (having slightly OCD colour-matching tenedencies myself please don’t be offended). Congratulations and wishing you both all the best for the future.

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